26 8 / 2012
Elle: How often should couples have sex?
How often “should” a couple be having sex? As often as works for them! But lots of people feel like the writer of this article — like they’re not measuring up. Do you ever feel self-conscious that you and your partner don’t do it “enough”?
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24 8 / 2012
I need feminism because I am tired of having my body fetishized by ‘chubby chasers’ or loathed by sexual materialists who believe a woman’s worth is dependent on her aesthetic conformity to an externally determined standard.
By Snail(source)FUCK
YES
TO ALL OF THIS
there are so many good words on that paper and fabulous beauty in this photo, i can’t even…
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03 8 / 2012
10 Black Women Teaching Us About Sex
there ARE other options besides laci green jsyk
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24 7 / 2012
communismkillsitonthedancefloor:
Being in a relationship with someone doesn’t mean you don’t need consent. You always need consent. 100% of the time.
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24 6 / 2012
feministische: sexreeducated: By far the most common question we receive at Libida is...
By far the most common question we receive at Libida is how couples can put more focus on the clitoris during intercourse. Here are some tips on how to locate it and, once you’ve located it, how to make it feel amazing.
Stimulating the Clitoris with Intercourse
The…
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09 4 / 2012
FUCKING PEOPLE OF COLOR DOESN’T MEAN YOU’RE NOT RACIST IT JUST MEANS YOU HAVE GOOD TASTE
THE TWO AREN’T MUTUALLY EXCLUSIVE
03 4 / 2012
nchl:
I was talking to a friend earlier and it came up that she reads Cosmo. I mean, really reads it. She goes to a store every month and buys a new one. She’s my age, in her middle 20s and I have to wonder (besides the obvious what sex position hasn’t been repeated at least 30 times) what its really doing to her esteem.
Cosmo goes out and claims itself to be a means of woman empowerment and a way to own their sexuality (though from a truly hertrosexist perspective), and I have no problem with some sexy suggestions. My issue lies in that every issue is geared towards how to please a man. I do like a few tips to keeping a lover content but I am also a participant in this and seeing as it’s a woman’s magazine I’m wondering why it isn’t about how to get yourself off, how to tell your lover what you like, how to direct when he’s going down on you, a comparison chart of oral vs vaginal sex, debunking sexual misconceptions of stds, pregnancy, or even fuckin of the rag. I would be happy with a full page spread of vibrators. Hell, an open discussion of various plastics of dildos.
There are SO SO SO many topics that really relate to female sexuality that they never do more than skim the surface of. And the guests! Sweet Jesus, I do not care what celebrity is fucking who. I know there’s many in North America who eat that shit up though and I can let them have that. But how about one issuse a year has a cover of a sexual educator, speaker, writer, hell even a woman of political power. I’m asking for one issue, it’s not that much.
Also, I hear the argument that Maxim is the male Cosmo. Wrong.
Maxim may still have pretty vapid articles but the issues aren’t about how to please your woman, it’s still how to make your woman please you.I mean is there anyone out there giving a fuck if women get to come?
***
EXACTLY.
19 3 / 2012
Sex Positive Shops in the Midwest
Milwaukee, WI - The Tool Shed - http://www.toolshedtoys.com/
Madison, WI - A Woman’s Touch - http://www.a-womans-touch.com/
Chicago, IL - Early 2 Bed - http://www.early2bed.com/
Chicago, IL - Tulip - http://mytulip.com/
Chicago, IL - Egor’s Dungeon - www.yelp.com/biz/egors-dungeon-chicago
14 3 / 2012
"But when we dramatize teenage sexuality by focusing only on its risks, we don’t give young people the tools to mature into sexually and emotionally healthy adults who we hope will one day find themselves in loving, committed, intimate, sexual relationships. It is also important to note that there are many valuable life lessons for youth to learn in the context of intimate relationships: communication, negotiation, conflict resolution, and developing partnerships. However well-intentioned, messages like “teens cannot control their raging hormones,” “boys just want one thing,” or “sex can ruin your life” don’t make for healthy conversations between parents and children."
08 3 / 2012
What You Really Really Want by Jaclyn Friedman.
Purchased this afternoon in sort-of honor of International Women’s Day. But something that struck me about it was that you can’t expect to get what you want without KNOWING what you want. Sexuality is something that still makes me uncomfortable and I want to get over that. Not going after what I want is getting old. Not even KNOWING what I want is getting old.
(the opposite side of my anxiety spectrum is manic intensity)
Thus: I am getting the damn Ativan and birth control and my dad can suck it if he doesn’t like either. I am going vegan because I have wanted to for the longest time and for some reason have never felt like I could. I will sing what and when I please. I will embrace my polite bitch nature. I will let my intellect and humor out. I am going to find out who I am and I am going to embrace that person fully, eventually.
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