Feminism will be intersectional

jasperbat:

dear-misandrist:

jasperbat:

dear-misandrist:

jasperbat:

dear-misandrist:

jasperbat:

abovtmaleprivilege:

aboutmaleprivilege:

Male privilege is when an unknown number started calling me and telling me all the things they wanted to do to me, I freaked out, locked all my doors, hid in my room, started crying and called my boyfriend. When I told him how scared I was, he kind of laughed it off saying…

Men don’t exist at the same time as phones shhhhh.

I think many of these women need to invest in a gun. They’re more effective then hiding in your room and crying.

Or instead of a gun (because you are more likely to shoot yourself or a person you know than an actual intruder) men can just not fucking scare women like that. What a novel concept.

Or women can stop being complete chicken shits and actually get some confidence.

You did not just say that. Please tell me you fell on your keyboard and someone that sentence came out. If you did mean to type out that sentence you need to sit in the fucking corner and think about how wrong you are.

Women* are constantly harassed by men. Men threaten women everyday for not smiling at them, for not giving them their numbers. A two second search on tumblr will bring you hundreds of stories of women feeling threatened and being threatened by men. 

Why is it so hard for you to get in your head that men do threaten women? 

Where did I say men don’t threaten women? I’m sure they do. The response of being scared/meek and crying about it later just seems counter-productive. Isn’t that why people pick on women? Because they think they won’t do anything about it?

They do it because they think that women are public property. You blaming women for being harassed is disgusting. You are blaming them for not sticking up for themselves in situations where they could get raped, beaten, killed, etc. 

Then they’ll continue being targeted. Men are taught to be show confidence in situations where they’re frightened. That lessens the chance of someone choosing them as a weak target. Continuing to act like a possible victim at all times seems a step backwards towards female equality. If thats what you’re after.

In other words, in your view, reaching equality means that women need to act more like men, try to fit into the way men are taught to behave.  That doesn’t sound remotely like equality.  Once men stop committing more violence acts against women than women commit against men, THEN we will have equality.  Have you ever thought that maybe women “act like victims” (I don’t think we do but ok) because we are actually victimized?  No, that thought has probably never crossed your mind.

(Source: all-about-male-privilege)

ihaveabsolutelynoidea:

things that are not inherently awful or something you should feel ashamed of:

• being white
• being male
• being cisgendered
• being straight or heteronormative
• being able bodied
• being neurotypical
• being conventionally attractive

things that suck and you should…

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ryking:

andyoumissarenolady:

So I totally forgot Ryking was a thing.

Went through his blog.

3.7 pages gloriously free of male-supremacist bullshit - wait -

dammit, is he still talking about misandry?

Seriously, fuck Ryking.

I have never advocated male supremacy. Ever. And yes, I’m still…

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“And to actual feminists, I say start purging these misandrists from your movement if you want it to survive.” -Ryking

And uh… how would that go exactly?  

Let’s go on a “misandrist” witch hunt!  Every feminist who has ever said something even slightly “misandrist,” GET OUT.  We don’t want you.  We only want women who are “humanists!”  

The feminist movement cannot survive without solidarity.  Casting out certain women would first diminish that ideal, and second, imply that there is a hierarchy.  Hierarchy is something we’re fighting against.  So not only is it a bad idea to cast out people, it’s kind of impossible, because who’s going to do it?  Who’s in charge?  If you identify as a feminist, you’re a feminist, and no one can tell you otherwise.

In my opinion, lack of leadership is part of why the feminist movement is stalled.  It’s not practical, but we don’t want to betray our ideals.  We don’t want to create an environment that mirrors the dominant, kyriarchial system.  But how do we create our own system without using the master’s tools? 

As for “misandry,” frankly, I don’t really care if men are discriminated against for being men.  They are still in power and their voice is still represented.  As a feminist, I try to stand up for women, people of color, the queer community, and impoverished people.  White men have always come first.  When is it their turn to go last?  Which begs the question, what about men of color?  Of course they are discriminated against… because of their skin color, not their gender.  What about white, disabled men?  They are discriminated against… because of their disability, not their skin color or gender.  It’s called intersectionality, and it’s not a difficult concept.

Let me wrap up with a quotation.  I think this says it all: “Men are afraid that women will laugh at them.  Women are afraid that men will kill them.” -Margaret Atwood.  And actually if we’re looking at the bigger picture, it would go: “[White men] are afraid that [everyone else] will laugh at them.  [Everyone else] is afraid that [white men] will kill them.” 

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lexywagner:

Amanda Marcotte’s response to that half-baked Cracked article about why men hate women.

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Great points.  I knew I didn’t like that article.  She actually articulates the reasons for my icky feelings…

feministepiphanies:

This desperately needs a repost.

genderfrication:

We really need to stop using the term ally. This applies to all of us in anti-oppression work, whether in the work in question we are part of the oppressed or oppressor class*. This is not about people who self-identify as allies and…

(Source: radicalmasculinity.blogspot.com)

motorizedmycologist:

I don’t get it

it’s like

If you were hanging out with your friend and your friend turns to you and says “hey I don’t know if you noticed but you just stepped on my foot, can you please stop”, I am guessing most people would say “oh man, I’m sorry” and maybe watch where they were walking a little…

daniellemertina:

Leadership & Politics

1. I don’t have to choose my race over my sex in political matters.
2. When I read African American History textbooks, I will learn mainly about black men.
3. When I learn about the Civil Rights Movement & the Black Power Movements, most of the leaders that I will learn about will be black men.
4. I can rely on the fact that in the near 100-year history of national civil rights organizations such as the NAACP and the Urban League, virtually all of the executive directors have been male.
5. I will be taken more seriously as a political leader than black women.
6. Despite the substantial role that black women played in the Civil Rights Movement and Black Power Movement, currently there is no black female that is considered a “race leader”.
7. I can live my life without ever having read black feminist authors, or knowing about black women’s history, or black women’s issues.
8. I can be a part of a black liberation organization like the Black Panther Party where an “out” rapist Eldridge Cleaver can assume leadership position.
9. I will make more money than black women at equal levels of education and occupation.
10. Most of the national “opinion framers” in Black America including talk show hosts and politicians are men.

Beauty
11. I have the ability to define black women’s beauty by European standards in terms of skin tone, hair, and body size. In comparison, black women rarely define me by European standards of beauty in terms of skin tone, hair, or body size.
12. I do not have to worry about the daily hassles of having my hair conforming to any standard image of beauty the way black women do.
13. I do not have to worry about the daily hassles of being terrorized by the fear of gaining weight. In fact, in many instances bigger is better for my sex.
14. My looks will not be the central standard by which my worth is valued by members of the opposite sex.

Sex & Sexuality
15. I can purchase pornography that typically shows men defile women by the common practice of the “money shot.”
16. I can believe that causing pain during sex is connected with a woman’s pleasure without ever asking her.
17. I have the privilege of not wanting to be a virgin, but preferring that my wife or significant other be a virgin.
18. When it comes to sex if I say “No”, chances are that it will not be mistaken for “Yes”.
19. If I am raped, no one will assume that “I should have known better” or suggest that my being raped had something to do with how I was dressed.
20. I can use sexist language like bonin’, laying the pipe, hittin-it, and banging that convey images of sexual acts based on dominance and performance.
21. I can live in a world where polygamy is still an option for men in the United States as well as around the world.
22. In general, I prefer being involved with younger women socially and sexually
23. In general, the more sexual partners that I have the more stature I receive among my peers.
24. I have easy access to pornography that involves virtually any category of sex where men degrade women, often young women.
25. I have the privilege of being a part of a sex where “purity balls” apply to girls but not to boys.
26. When I consume pornography, I can gain pleasure from images and sounds of men causing women pain.

Popular Culture
27. I come from a tradition of humor that is based largely on insulting and disrespecting women; especially mothers.
28. I have the privilege of not having black women, dress up and play funny characters- often overweight- that are supposed to look like me for the entire nation to laugh.
29. When I go to the movies, I know that most of the leads in black films are men. I also know that all of the action heroes in black film are men.
30. I can easily imagine that most of the artists in Hip Hop are members of my sex.
31. I can easily imagine that most of the women that appear in Hip Hop videos are there solely to please men
32. Most of lyrics I listen to in hip-hop perpetuate the ideas of males dominating women, sexually and socially.
33. I have the privilege of consuming and popularizing the word pimp, which is based on the exploitation of women with virtually no opposition from other men.
34. I can hear and use language bitches and hoes that demean women, with virtually no opposition from men.
35. I can wear a shirt that others and I commonly refer to as a “wife beater” and never have the language challenged.
36. Many of my favorite movies include images of strength that do not include members of the opposite sex and often are based on violence.
37. Many of my favorite genres of films, such as martial arts, are based on violence.
38. I have the privilege of popularizing or consuming the idea of a thug, which is based on the violence and victimization of others with virtually no opposition from other men.

Attitudes/Ideology
39. I have the privilege to define black women as having “an attitude” without referencing the range of attitudes that black women have.
40. I have the privilege of defining black women’s attitudes without defining my attitudes as a black man.
41. I can believe that the success of the black family is dependent on returning men to their historical place within the family, rather than in promoting policies that strengthen black women’s independence, or that provide social benefits to black children.
42. I have the privilege of believing that a woman cannot raise a son to be a man.
43. I have the privilege of believing that a woman must submit to her man.
44. I have the privilege of believing that before slavery gender relationships between black men and women were perfect.
45. I have the privilege of believing that feminism is anti-black.
46. I have the privilege of believing that the failure of the black family is due to the black matriarchy.
47. I have the privilege of believing that household responsibilities are women’s roles.
48. I have the privilege of believing that black women are different sexually than other women and judging them negatively based on this belief.

Sports
49. I will make significantly more money as a professional athlete than members of the opposite sex will.
50. In school, girls are cheerleaders for male athletes, but there is no such role for males to cheerlead for women athletes.
51. My financial success or popularity as a professional athlete will not be associated with my looks.
52. I can talk about sports or spend large portions of the day playing video games while women are most likely involved with household or childcare duties.
53. I can spend endless hours watching sports TV and have it considered natural.
54. I can touch, hug, or be emotionally expressive with other men while watching sports without observers perceiving this behavior as sexual.
55. I know that most sports analysts are male.
56. If I am a coach, I can motivate, punish, or embarrass a player by saying that the player plays like a girl.
57. Most sports talk show hosts that are members of my race are men.
58. I can rest assured that most of the coaches -even in predominately-female sports within my race are male.
59. I am able to play sports outside without my shirt on and it not be considered a problem.
60. I am essentially able to do anything inside or outside without my shirt on, whereas women are always required to cover up.

Diaspora/Global
61. I have the privilege of being a part of a sex where the mutilation and disfigurement of a girl’s genitalia is used to deny her sexual sensations or to protect her virginity for males.
62. I have the privilege of not having rape be used as a primary tactic or tool to terrorize my sex during war and times of conflict.
63. I have the privilege of not being able to name one female leader in Africa or Asia, past or present, that I pay homage to the way I do male leaders in Africa and/or Asia.
64. I have the ability to travel around the world and have access to women in developing countries both sexually and socially.
65. I have the privilege of being a part of the sex that starts wars and that wields control of almost all the existing weapons of war and mass destruction.
College
66. In college, I will have the opportunity to date outside of the race at a much higher rate than black women will.
67. I have the privilege of having the phrase “sewing my wild oats” apply to my sex as if it were natural.
68. I know that the further I go in education the more success I will have with women.
69. In college, black male professors will be involved in interracial marriages at much higher rates than members of the opposite sex will.
70. By the time I enter college, and even through college, I have the privilege of not having to worry whether I will be able to marry a black woman.
71. In college, I will experience a level of status and prestige that is not offered to black women even though black women may outnumber me and out perform me academically.
72. If I go to an HBCU, I will have incredible opportunities to exploit black women

Communication/Language
73. What is defined as “News” in Black America is defined by men.
74. I can choose to be emotionally withdrawn and not communicate in a relationships and it be considered unfortunate but normal.
75. I can dismissively refer to another persons grievances as ^*ing.
76. I have the privilege of not knowing what words and concepts like patriarchy, phallocentric, complicity, colluding, and obfuscation mean.

Relationships
77. I have the privilege of marrying outside of the race at a much higher rate than black women marry.
78. My “strength” as a man is never connected with the failure of the black family, whereas the strength of black women is routinely associated with the failure of the black family.
79. If I am considering a divorce, I know that I have substantially more marriage, and cohabitation options than my spouse.
80. Chances are I will be defined as a “good man” by things I do not do as much as what I do. If I don’t beat, cheat, or lie, then I am a considered a “good man”. In comparison, women are rarely defined as “good women” based on what they do not do.
81. I have the privilege of not having to assume most of the household or child-care responsibilities.
82. I have the privilege of having not been raised with domestic responsibilities of cooking, cleaning, and washing that takes up disproportionately more time as adults.

Church & Religious Traditions
83. In the Black Church, the majority of the pastoral leadership is male.
84. In the Black Church Tradition, most of the theology has a male point of view. For example, most will assume that the man is the head of household.

Physical Safety
85. I do not have to worry about being considered a traitor to my race if I call the police on a member of the opposite sex.
86. I have the privilege of knowing men who are physically or sexually abusive to women and yet I still call them friends.
87. I can video tape women in public- often without their consent - with male complicity.
88. I can be courteous to a person of the opposite sex that I do not know and say “Hello” or “Hi” and not fear that it will be taken as a come-on or fear being stalked because of it.
89. I can use physical violence or the threat of physical violence to get what I want when other tactics fail in a relationship.
90. If I get into a physical altercation with a person of the opposite sex, I will most likely be able to impose my will physically on that person
91. I can go to parades or other public events and not worry about being physically and sexually molested by persons of the opposite sex.
92. I can touch and physically grope women’s bodies in public- often without their consent- with male complicity.
93. In general, I have the freedom to travel in the night without fear.
94. I am able to be out in public without fear of being sexually harassed by individuals or groups of the opposite sex.

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