03 1 / 2013
"Men’s misery does deserve sympathy, but not if it means we ignore how men contribute to that misery, where it comes from, and what men get in exchange for it. It’s all too easy to go from sympathy for men to forgetting that patriarchy and male privilege even exist. Part of what makes it so easy is misunderstanding what privilege is, where it comes from, and how it is distributed. Many men argue, for example, that men are privileged only to the degree that they feel privileged. A key aspect of privilege, however, is to be unaware of it as privilege. In addition, even though men as a group are privileged in society, factors such as race, class, sexual orientation, and disability status affect how much privilege each man gets to enjoy and how he experiences it.
Privilege can take many forms, and its distribution among people in a society is a complicated process. Privilege can be something as simple as being heard and taken seriously when we say something, of being served promptly and courteously in a store or restaurant, or of being free to move around or express an opinion. It can take the form of wealth or power or having other people clean up after us and take care of our needs. In every case, what makes something privilege is the unequal way in which it is distributed and the effect it has of elevating some people over others."
24 8 / 2012
Male privilege is this article.
Because we’re supposed to feel sorry for the poor widdle rapist
THEY PLEAD GUILTY WHY ARE PEOPLE DEFENDING THEM.
12 7 / 2012
Male privilege is when your orgasm is expected.
08 7 / 2012
Male privilege is assuming that male-dominated fields are that way because of women’s flaws rather than from any systematic or societal inequality.
Male privilege is assuming that female-dominated fields are that way because they’re unimportant or uninteresting to men.
Yes. Unimportant or uninteresting, period.
08 5 / 2012
Why are so many people who call themselves “activists” bitter?
Like some feminists are so anti-men and some disability activists are so anti-able bodied
Like, come on. If you support someone or something that doesn’t give you the right to tear someone or something else down.
When did people start putting disclaimers on the advocation of civil rights?
You are not better than anyone else
isn’t the point of activism to be TOTALLY equal, not just KIND OF equal with SOME people?
Yeah… you’re right. Black people shouldn’t be bitter that white people forcibly brought them to another country, made them our slaves, then told them to go back to Africa although they never asked to be in the U.S. in the first place, then and systematically segregated them into the poorest areas with the fewest educational opportunities and perpetuated the myth that they’re disadvantaged because they’re “lazy” and “dumb.” No, they’re TOTALLY out of line for “tearing down” us poor, poor white people.
Oh. And disabled people. Even though the U.S. continues to fail to accommodate their needs (like elevators/wheelchair access ramps in public spaces), and people continue to pity them, falsely assuming that (among other things) their lives suck, they are not active, and/or are not sexual beings… they have NO right to be bitter!
And women! Where do we get OFF bringing up the fact that 1 in 4 of us is raped in our lifetimes and often when we share our stories, no one believes us, and even if they do, they make jokes about it. Jokes about violent acts done to our bodies that have made us depressed, anxious, sometimes even suicidal. God, after all that men have done to educate themselves and others about sexual violence, we should really just stop complaining so much.
25 3 / 2012
"There are the occasions that men—intellectual men, clever men, engaged men—insist on playing devil’s advocate, desirous of a debate on some aspect of feminist theory or reproductive rights or some other subject generally filed under the heading: Women’s Issues. These intellectual, clever, engaged men want to endlessly probe my argument for weaknesses, want to wrestle over details, want to argue just for fun—and they wonder, these intellectual, clever, engaged men, why my voice keeps raising and why my face is flushed and why, after an hour of fighting my corner, hot tears burn the corners of my eyes. Why do you have to take this stuff so personally? ask the intellectual, clever, and engaged men, who have never considered that the content of the abstract exercise that’s so much fun for them is the stuff of my life."
Melissa McEwan, of course, on the terrible bargain. My life as a woman, as a queer person, as a fat person, is not your thought experiment. (via sanitywatchers)
This really struck a chord. Even my boyfriend, feminist that he is, can have this reaction when I’m in tears after an NPR story. This is my fucking life. Excuse me if I can’t remove the personal.
I reblogged this before, but I like it a lot so I’m reblogging it again.
This whole thing is the reason why confrontations with people that I consider friends always leaves me crying. Like, I get so angry and so flustered because it’s not just some stupid game to me, like it is to them. It’s something that’s real and personal.
I will always reblog this.
Oh gosh, this.
22 3 / 2012
"Male fantasies, male fantasies, is everything run by male fantasies? Up on a pedestal or down on your knees, it’s all a male fantasy: that you’re strong enough to take what they dish out, or else too weak to do anything about it. Even pretending you aren’t catering to male fantasies is a male fantasy: pretending you’re unseen, pretending you have a life of your own, that you can wash your feet and comb your hair unconscious of the ever-present watcher peering through the keyhole, peering through the keyhole in your own head, if nowhere else. You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman. You are your own voyeur."