21 5 / 2013
"There are only two types of men who are upset that they need permission before they can have sex: rapists and potential rapists."
20 8 / 2012
- The kind where two people have sex even though one of them doesn’t want to an/or is unable to give consent.
- That is all
24 7 / 2012
Being in a relationship with someone doesn’t mean you don’t need consent. You always need consent. 100% of the time.
20 6 / 2012
"Imagine you’re at a party. A guy offers you a drink. You say no. He says “Come on, one drink!” You say “no thanks.” Later, he brings you a soda. “I know you said you didn’t want a drink, but I was getting one for myself and you looked thirsty.” For you to refuse at this point makes you the asshole. He’s just being nice, right? Predators use the social contract and our own good hearts and fear of being rude against us. If you drink the drink, you’re teaching him that it just takes a little persistence on his part to overcome your “no.” If you say “Really, I appreciate it, but no thanks” and put the drink down and walk away from it, you’re the one who looks rude in that moment. But the fact is, you didn’t ask for the drink and you don’t want the drink and you don’t have to drink it just to make some guy feel validated."
I love this post SO MUCH.