07 5 / 2013
The Cycle of Abuse Illustrated Through Single Photos and Multiple Models
Statistics show that 70% of people who are abused as children will grow up into adults who will in turn abuse children. A recent awareness ad campaign by Mexican organization Save the Children shared this fact in single photographs that are both creative and difficult to stomach.
The advertisements were originally published back in May 2012, and were created by Mexican agency Y&R and photographer Ale Burset.Each one uses five models showing one individual at different stages of life. In the foreground, the individual is experiencing abuse as a child. Older versions of the abused child grow up as they walk across the background of the frame, and turn into the original abuser by the time they walk a full circle.
“70% of abused children turn into abusive adults. Donate at savethechildren.mx,” the advertisements say.
(via annehka)
12 4 / 2013
Well the final Clothesline Project event was today, believe it or not. It was the celebration at my internship. We hung the shirts, had everyone go around and explain theirs, and had a few people read empowering poems aloud to the group. It was so cool to see all the ladies’ hard work and creativity and to hear them open up about their experiences. And after the readings we had cheesecake :)
Here’s what some of the shirts said:
-Love n’ Paz, Stop the Violence
-I feel safe at (the name of women’s shelter)
-Feel Free, Break Chain, Stop HIding
-Peace, Let Love In
-Preserve Womanhood
-I’m a survivor of incest, sexual abuse, and battery. I am strong & beautiful.
-Be Fearless. Domestic Violence is a crime. Get help please.
-Stop homelessness
-Speak out for what you believe in
-Stop violence, enough is enough
09 4 / 2013
03 4 / 2013
Clothesline Project - undergrad edition went well. We got about 20 t-shirts total. Mine said:
“To the Steubenville survivor: THANK YOU for having the courage to speak out”
And “speak out” was written in a little megaphone. That was me trying to be clever…
16 2 / 2013
I CAN’T FORGET WHAT HAPPENED BUT NO ONE ELSE REMEMBERS floats in the reflecting pool as call to create national memorial to survivors of rape and abuse.
(Source: upsettingrapeculture, via paigemccullersisbatman)
20 11 / 2012
Jasper James: To feminist77 (I tried to reblog but couldn’t figure out how to from...
To feminist77 (I tried to reblog but couldn’t figure out how to from your page sorry). I know women are victimized by men, men are victimized by men as well. Men are the victims of violent crime at a higher rate than women. I just think that this (percieved) weakness in women is brought on by…
Look. The issue is not how women react to or feel about violent crime. Women - people in general - cannot help how they feel. The issue is violent crime. The issue is that one in four women are raped in their lifetime. That is what we should be concerned about, and that is what I stand against. Teach women whatever the hell you want (actually no don’t)… anyway, regardless of what women do differently, nothing is going to change until men stop raping and killing their girlfriends and wives.
You may be right. But internalized and casual misandry isn’t going to stop that, which is what I stand against. I think both stereotypical mindsets: that of the misandrist and that of the misogynist have negative consequences to both genders and, like-wise, are influenced by both genders.
Ok. Well, misandry isn’t really the issue either, and it is quite different from misogyny because of power dynamics. But ok.
The internalized fear of all unknown men is a form of misandry. Any pre-judgement of someone based on their gender is wrong. But, yeah we’ve gone off subject, sorry.
Wrong? Maybe. Understandable? Yes. It is understandable if women who have been abused by men do not trust men.
Think about it like this: if a person of color doesn’t trust me at first, it really hurts my feelings, but I try to understand it from their POV. Why should they trust me when I benefit from their oppression? Why should they trust me when I have been raised to be racist? As a white person, I need to earn their trust. Similarly (but of course these 2 issues do have differences), men need to earn women’s trust by being honest and respectful. I generally do not trust men at first, because I have been hurt by so many of them in a variety of different ways. But if I realize they are really listening to me, I will respect them.
17 7 / 2012
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I know I’ve told this story before, but my abusive ex refused to let me take birth control. I was on the pill until he found them in my purse.
I went to the Student Health Center—they were completely unhelpful, choosing to lecture me about the importance of safe sex (recommending condoms) instead of actually listening to my problem.
Then I went to Planned Parenthood. The Nurse Practitioner took one look at my fading bruises and stopped the exam. She called in the doctor. The doctor came in and simply asked me: ‘Are you ready to leave him?’ When I denied that I was being abused, she didn’t argue with me. She just asked me what I needed. I said I need a birth control method that my boyfriend couldn’t detect. She recommended a few options and we decided on Depo.
When I told her that my boyfriend read my emails and listened to my phone messages and was known to follow me, she suggested to do the Depo injections at off hours when the clinic was normally closed. She made a note in my chart and instructed the front desk never to leave messages for me—instead, she programmed her personal cell phone number into my phone under the name ‘Nora’. She told me she would call me to schedule my appointments; she wouldn’t leave a message, but I should call her back when I was able to.
And that was it. No judgment. No lecture. She walked me to the door and told me to call her day or night if I needed anything. That she lived 5 blocks from campus and would come get me. That I wasn’t alone. That she just wanted me to be safe.
I never called her to come to my rescue. But I have no doubt that she would have come if I had called. She kept me on Depo for a year, giving me those monthly injections in secret, helping me prevent a desperately unwanted pregnancy.
I cannot thank Planned Parenthood enough for the work they do.
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